Treat Yourself

One of my all time favorite TV shows is Parks and Recreation. Every year two of the characters treat themselves to a day of pure indulgence. What a fabulous concept! But what if you already live an indulgent lifestyle? Where do you discern between living within your means and living frivolously? 

I'm not just referring to compulsive spending but generally living thoughtlessly. Do you really need that extra glass of wine or a second helping of food? Can you think of a cost efficient alternative to your daily mocha frappe with coffee cake? You might be approved for a line of credit but do the payments stretch you so thin that you can't afford groceries? Every decision seems great while you're in the moment but when your daily habits are destructive to your health (or your bank account) it's time to take action. 

I recently had an epiphany about my poor eating habits. As a solution, I downloaded an app to help me keep track of what I'm eating. Subsequently, every time I want to splurge on something I don't need, I write down the cost of the item. It's amazing how much I'm saving now!

Hindsight is always 20/20. But if you take time to slow down and think before you act you can change negative habits into positive power to transform your life. You are in control of every decision and you are worthy to treat yourself once in a while. Indulgent habits are hard to break, but if you can find a new perspective to gain awareness you're choosing a positive step toward your health and happiness. Simplify your life and appreciate the little things. It's truly what matters the most.

Writers Block

I’ve been trying to brainstorm a new post for a few weeks. I write down topics of discussion when the thought presents itself but lately it seems like I am in a whirlwind that is on a path of destruction. I’m sitting here trying to embellish my words to capture your attention but I’ve hit a brick wall. So let me give you a brief synopsis of the wisdom I acquired over the last few weeks.

   

·       Turn setbacks into momentum. Aliments happen to the best of us. When it rains it definitely pours in my household. It’s much easier to channel my stress with a glass of wine while treating myself to something sweet but the show must go on. Use the setbacks in life to propel you forward.

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      The terrible twos are no joke. It seems like God turned on a light switch and my daughter is constantly on seek-and-destroy mode. Instead of letting my daughter go completely Godzilla on me while I lose my cool, we play scavenger hunts and I do my best to redirect her.  A broken spirit is much harder to mend than a broken toy.

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            Embrace criticism. Just smile politely when your work is criticized. Especially when it’s not constructive criticism. There is a huge difference! Try to sift through the information, perhaps see a new perspective but don’t take it to heart.  

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            PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE! Remember the days when your parents wouldn’t answer the phone past 7:30pm? Or when games were played on a table instead of a tablet? It’s so easy to get caught up in the news or who’s posting what on social media but honestly less is more. I have enough on my plate to worry about than reading about what Jane Doe had for dinner. If you are trying to build your business online through social media, set designated times to post then walk away.

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           Don’t get discouraged while learning something new. As a photographer there is always something new to learn. It’s so easy to get overwhelmed and feel discouraged. Take a deep breath and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

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            Stop comparing yourself to others. Surround yourself with positivity and gratefulness. Negative energy and bitter thoughts are extremely draining and counterproductive.  

Maybe my next post will be a distinguished article but for now life has me occupied. Go forth with peace and blessings.  

Community VS. Competition

Over the years as a marathon runner, I learned that running is certainly a “you vs. you” sport. Your personal achievements are simply based on how much effort you put into it. I never wanted to compare myself to others because I’ve never walked (or ran) a mile in their shoes. I wholeheartedly commend everyone who trains for a race. Whether you’re a veteran runner trying to qualify for Boston or a new mom trying to lose the baby weight, you have my utmost admiration.

I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching over the last few months and realized that I have a profound passion for landscape and portrait photography. It’s incredible to feel the same “runners high” when I take a great photograph. I desperately wanted to branch out and start advertising a business page but I soon realized that there are (literally) over a hundred photographers in my area. My insecurities and doubt instantly took over. How could I possibly compete or compare myself to so many talented photographers? I felt completely unworthy.

I continued to shadow a close friend as she went on photo sessions and she introduced me to a community of photographers who solely believe in community over competition. It was so refreshing to know that there are people who believe in serving the community and building relationships rather than competing and tearing one another down. I had the privilege of attending a dinner with some of these beautiful idealists. I was in awe of the instant fellowship I experienced. It was wonderful to hear new ideas of young entrepreneurs in my area who truly want to better our community.  

When I left I had steadfast peace knowing that it’s "OK" to start from scratch. There are people who genuinely want you to be brave and succeed. There are people who want you to take a risk and let go of your fears to watch you achieve your dreams.You just need to believe in yourself.